Let’s get the most obvious thing out of the way. I think it’s hilarious that the acronym for Phases of Unicron is PoU… poo!! I thought long and hard about the name for my website, and only after I had established everything and paid for the website itself did I see what the acronym said.
And you know what, I LOVE IT!
The Magic Behind the Magic
Remember back in the chat room days where you’d introduce yourself with ASL (age, sex, location)? It feels appropriate here too so here goes.
I’m Jen, I’m 35, am female and live in the mighty Waikato in the most beautiful country in the world: New Zealand.
Now the nitty gritty: I’m weird, try to be funny, pretty chunky right now, incredibly hard-working, have a bubbly demeanour and my interests change more often than Nicki Minaj changes her wigs.
I like angels and magic, and have a degree in Biology, so most days you can find me trying to wrap my mind around the polarity of my beliefs. My thoughts on the universe and how it takes care of me constantly butt up against how that would happen and, of course, what’s so special about me?
My partner and I have a fairy tale love story. We quickly fell into and out of lust in high school and spent seven years apart, gaining some huge life experiences along the way. Twelve years ago, we came back together as friends and fell madly in love, probably even faster than when we were kids! I have always maintained that we were meant to be together but we found each other too early. Now it feels right.
We have two kids; our daughter is fifteen and I legally adopted her when she was eight, after a short and fiery custody battle with her biological mother, and our son is seven and was born a month after I adopted our daughter.
Four years ago, our son was diagnosed with ASD and our whole world was flipped upside down. We learnt to parent more compassionately and went through some huge life changes.
Then two years ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD. Since then, I’ve grieved for the person I thought I was and am growing into the person I can finally express fully, without feeling the need to suppress her.
Why Am I Blogging?
I’ve always felt like the undercover weirdo, suppressing my quirks and hiding my struggles. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and depression (too many times), Endometriosis, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and now, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Autism Spectrum Disorder.
I mean, if that doesn’t scream “flaky nutcase,” what does?
I’ve tried my hand at blogging in the past but never really felt a groove with it. I was always writing about depression or the struggles I was going through, but I had no idea how to come through it or why I might have been triggered all the time. I felt like a failure every second day because I simply had no idea why I was the way I was.
Now, I feel so much more confident in myself because I have a lens with which to explain my reactions and thoughts. I’ve been claiming the “weirdo” title for many years, but now I really feel like I can OWN it.
This website serves two purposes:
ONE: I need to write. I’ve been writing since I was a child and always thought I’d be an author. Unfortunately ADHD influences a lot of my projects and I never actually started a book. I’ve finally found a way to get my thoughts and experiences out of my head in small bites, so here we are.
TWO: Since being diagnosed, I’ve found so many ways to cope with and overcome the struggles that are so huge for the neurodiverse community. I’m done with keeping them to myself, so here I will humbly share what works, what doesn’t, and some things that are just downright hilarious.
Where Can You Find Me?
While you can usually find me rocking in the corner trying to move through my latest breakdown, that’s not quite what I meant.
I’m working on a newsletter, so if you’d like to catch that, please email me here and I’ll add you to the list!
I’ve recently started designing some tools and artwork for us neurodivergent peeps. They will be up on the website soon, but in the meantime, check out my Etsy shop to see what I’ve been coming up with.
Last but not least, I’ve got Phases of Unicron social media pages on Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest, so be sure to check those out for some of the less “meaty” stuff.
Thanks so much for stopping by, I look forward to sharing and connecting more with you on this magical journey we call LIFE.
